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Adoption – A Loving Option

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Talli Moellering – A Beacon of Hope

Guest Blog by Talli Moellering

As the leader of a Women’s Clinic there are times I’m with the general public and I’ll hear comments that really frustrate me. One of the highest on my list is when someone is talking about being adopted or choosing adoption as an option and they use words or phrases like “gave me up,” “put me up,” “gave we away,” “I was unwanted so my mom gave me to another family,” “my birth mom was messed up so she needed to get rid of me.”

Please know, I don’t want to discount your feelings. Your feelings and your experience is real and part of your story.

BUT! Abortion currently ranks as the #1 option over parenting or placing in our country. Why? Our culture. Perception. Lies! Words! Phrases! “Convenience”

(Parenting ranks #2)

There’s several reasons why the adoption number is so low but one main reason is our culture, the leaders of our community, and individuals speaking in front of thousands using terms like “she gave me up.”

Every adoption placement has a story. Some good. Some hard. But if we want to change the perception of adoption, and we do, for the sake of the unborn whose lives are in danger, those speaking in front of thousands need to select their words wisely.

Placing a child for adoption takes courage. Placing a child for adoption is selfless. Choosing to place a child from an unplanned pregnancy is an act of love. It’s not an unwanted pregnancy, someone wants this baby. Someone has been waiting for this baby.

What if a leader speaking in front of thousands would say, yes, my mom was messed up so she chose a very courageous, selfless act, she chose life, and she lovingly placed me into the hands of a wonderful family that could provide and care for me. A family that desperately wanted me. My guess, they had been praying over your arrival for years.

If it were said like this, perception would begin to change. The young girl in the audience dealing with an unplanned pregnancy would have just heard a positive related to adoption. Wow! Now she might consider it.

Come on leaders. Let’s learn positive, appropriate verbiage. Help us, the leaders in this field, on the front line, at least get the courageous option of adoption on the table.

It wasn’t the focus of the message but it was still heard, I would assume someone heard a negative connotation. I pray she walks into one of our clinics so we can share the beauty of the adoption option.

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Talli Moellering, the Director of A Beacon of Hope. Talli is a certified Sexual Risk Avoidance educator, a Post Abortion Recovery Specialist with additional certification as a Crisis Pregnancy Coach through the American Association of Christian Counselors.  She has worked within the field of sexual health and unplanned pregnancy for 20 years and travels regularly around the Southeast sharing the mission of A Beacon of Hope and speaking to parents and teens. Talli is the mom of three daughters ages 23, 20, and 17.  She and her husband David have been married for 25 years.”

 

See our two-part series from Adoption Month last year with Stephen Story of Covenant Care Adoption.
You can find it here

Sanctity of Human Life Sunday 2017

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The year 2016 has been one full of twists and turns. It may only be October, but 2017 is fast approaching. In January, we will remember the 44th anniversary of the Supreme Court Decision on Roe vs. Wade; the decision that made abortion legal in the United States. Sunday, Jan 15, 2017 is designated as Sanctity of Human Life Sunday to remember the January 22nd decision.

At Georgia Life Alliance, we encourage life-giving involvement around this time and have written our Sanctity of Human Life Sunday bulletin insert to reflect a love for life, encouragement for prayer, thanks to those who advocate for the unborn and involvement with those who love on their mothers. This is also a difficult time for many so we encourage extra time and care be taken for those who remember with regret.

Over the last two years, some of you have taken advantage of our offer for Sanctity of Human Life Sunday bulletin inserts/flyers for your Pregnancy Center supporting churches, and congregations.  If you’d like to participate with us this year, we’d love to have you join us. Click here to see this year’s insert.

Last year, we got the cost to $.10 for each insert and this year, we’ve secured a price of just $.05 each.

Shipping will be done by Priority Mail: $5.75 for any order less than 500 and $12.65 for orders from 500-1,500.

To participate with us, NO later than Nov. 15th, please place your order RSVP online by filling in the blanks below to hold your quantity (then click Submit).
In addition, by Nov 30, please mail your check with this printed form to Georgia Life Alliance (SOHL) PO Box 725546, Atlanta GA 31139

We look forward to serving you as you serve others.

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As a part of our Georgia Life Alliance’s celebration of National Adoption Month, we are posting part 2 of our 2-part interview with Stephen Story, Executive Director of Covenant Care Services. If you missed part 1 of our interview, view it here.

We continue this interview this week beginning with a question we hear a lot, related to resources for adoption.

 

What resources are available for families adopting?

Financially, there is a broad and ever-growing range of resources. At the national level there’s the Federal Adoption Tax Credit ($13,190 for tax year 2014). This resource alone often makes adoption financially feasible in a way that it would not be otherwise. There are national non-profits like The ABBA Fund and Lifesong for Orphans, to name just two that provide grants and interest-free loans for adopting families. On the state and local level, there are a number of faith-based organizations providing adoption assistance who live in a certain geographic area or attend certain churches. Promise686 and Chosen for Life Ministries are two organizations in Georgia, and there are others like them. A growing number of local churches provide adoption assistance funds for families within the church who are adopting. Aside from all of this, the State of Georgia provides financial assistance for some situations involving the adoption of a child with special needs.

 

The financial cost is one of the first things that scares many people away from the adoption process. However, in the end, it often becomes one of the most powerful and moving parts of the adoption journey, as God provides for families who are adopting and resources of the community come together in support of an adoptive family.

What are some ways that singles, unable to adopt, be part of this effort?

 

Those who are not married may be in the unique position of working in orphan prevention by helping those who need temporary, not permanent, support. Single foster parents can be some of the most effective in pouring into a child and birth family in need, and, thereby being part of the redemptive work that alleviates the need for adoption. Also, anyone who has a heart for adoption ministry but is not currently called to adopt (single or not!), is in a wonderful position of supporting those who are called to adoption. Support can be through direct service in babysitting, providing meals for newly adoptive families, or assisting them with fundraising prior to placement. Support can also be through indirect means, such as prompting the positive aspects of adoption through your local church or community, or volunteering for a local agency which does adoption ministry. If there’s a desire to get involved, there’s a way to get involved!

 

As part of our mission, here at Georgia Life Alliance, we are big on the “Alliance” part of growing a culture of life in Georgia. So would you please speak directly to that by telling us what the Pro-life Community need to know about adoption?

 

That there is incredible opportunity to expand the work of adoption! Adoption is a much smaller piece of pro-life work than many people assume. Pregnancy Resource Centers all over the state consistently see a very small percentage of their clients choose adoption. They share with us (and we’ve seen ourselves) what a difficult thing it is to present the option of adoption to a woman who is pregnant. So there continues to be opportunity for the pro-life community to better understand adoption and better advocate for adoption as an alternative to abortion.

 

There also is a need for churches to become more knowledgeable about adoption, and to understand how to promote and encourage adoption within a local congregation. There is a need for more adoptive parents within the African American community. There is a need for parents willing to adopt children who come out of difficult or troubling circumstances.

 

Adoption is one of the most logical and tangible answers that we can give to abortion in our state, and there remains tremendous work to be done in this regard.

 

Why do you believe it is so important for the church family to promote adoption and adopt themselves?

Because we who are Christ-followers have experienced the greatest adoption possible! Scripture speaks about our salvation a number of different ways, and one of the most powerful ways our salvation is explained is using the language of adoption. In Galatians 4 we read that the entire reason Jesus came to earth was, “to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons.” We then read that because of our adoption into God’s family, we have received the Spirit of His Son so that we can address God as “Father.” In Ephesians 1 we read, “In love He predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ.” Our salvation is an adopting salvation! Out of the richness and abundance of what we have already received from God, we should love, promote and encourage physical adoption, and even engage in adoption ourselves.

 

Considering all the reasons to encourage adoption, what do you think keeps couples from adopting?

Not everyone should adopt. But my guess is that there are people who could pursue adoption but who don’t for one reason or another. One of those reasons is simply lack of clarity about what adoption is or where to begin. There are so many different ways in which to pursue adoption that it can be overwhelming. Adoption doesn’t happen by accident, it takes some intentionality and persistence, and some people just don’t know where to start. Thankfully, this is something we can address by educating people on what adoption is and where to begin.

 

Fear is another very common hindrance for many people. There are so many things that we can find to be afraid of! Fear about the money, fear about the process, fear about what others will think, fear about what the child will think, fear of the unpredictable nature of parenting in general, and so on. For those of us who are Christ-followers, we thankfully have a Bible that is full of stories about God answering the fears of His people. He provides the things that we need, and most importantly He gives us Himself to ease our fears. This is true for all of life, and it is certainly true in adoption.

 

How can we best encourage adoption among our own circles of influence?

Talk about adoption. Celebrate it! Tell the stories of those who have experienced it first-hand. Encourage those who are considering adoption, and look for tangible ways to express your support. Especially if you know a birth parent considering adoption for his or her own child, affirm for them that making an adoption plan is a good and loving thing to consider.

 

I would love to see a culture in Georgia that embraces adoption as a positive choice. Especially as we think about birthmothers, there is so much room for us to improve how we as a culture think about a woman who makes an adoption plan for her child. A woman who chooses adoption for her child is doing a loving and noble thing. We should honor her decision, and we should honor her. This means creating a culture where it is safe for her to talk about her decision without being made to feel ashamed. These women are not “giving up” their children, they are making a responsible plan for the future of their child. That’s something we should all be able to respect and celebrate.

 

Thank you, again for all you and the CCS staff do to love on birth mothers, adoptive parents and babies in Georgia. Thank you for helping to equip us to better understand how we can help encourage adoption as well.

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Stephen Story is the Executive Director of Covenant Care Services, a Christian adoption agency based in Macon and serving all of Georgia. Covenant Care specializes in domestic, infant adoption and works to promote adoption as an alternative to abortion. More information on Covenant Care is available at www.CovenantCareAdoptions.com. Stephen and his wife are originally from Augusta and are parents of three children through adoption. Connect with Stephen on Twitter @StephenPStory.